I've been on artificial hormones most of my life, so I don't know how that affects things. Having said that, though, I always use lube. When I come, which happens with pleasing frequency nowadays and usually at least once before actual penetration, I almost always ejaculate at least a little bit--by which I mean, not enough that anyone would notice by look or feel--and where my pre-orgasm secretions are nice and slippery, the ejaculate is thin and increases friction rather than reducing it. It's like... having soap on your hands with slippery sudsy lather, and then washing it all off and your hands being squeaky clean. My girly bits do not like being squeaky. Silicone lube is the only thing that ever consistently survives that.
This has been rather more pronounced since I got my Mirena IUS, now that I think about it. Given all the benefits of the Mirena, though, I'm not complaining.
Datapoints: sinboy is built rather larger than average (though not OMGLARGE) and I am a small person (though people with small to medium hands have fisted me without tremendous difficulty); we don't use condoms or gloves; if I don't come before penetration, penetration is all kinds of ouchful.
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I've been on artificial hormones most of my life, so I don't know how that affects things. Having said that, though, I always use lube. When I come, which happens with pleasing frequency nowadays and usually at least once before actual penetration, I almost always ejaculate at least a little bit--by which I mean, not enough that anyone would notice by look or feel--and where my pre-orgasm secretions are nice and slippery, the ejaculate is thin and increases friction rather than reducing it. It's like... having soap on your hands with slippery sudsy lather, and then washing it all off and your hands being squeaky clean. My girly bits do not like being squeaky. Silicone lube is the only thing that ever consistently survives that.
This has been rather more pronounced since I got my Mirena IUS, now that I think about it. Given all the benefits of the Mirena, though, I'm not complaining.
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