Pebble. And yummy gluten-free treats, when you like. And silly dancing.
I never, ever wish this on anyone. Not someone I love, someone I like, someone I don't know, even someone I hate. But your courage in talking about this, the not-being-believed, and what it does to you? The rest of us share in your strength and grow it and spread it around.
I remember trying to tell and being minimized after my then-fiance raped me, and had been coercing me continuously. I didn't know how to get out, and I didn't know how to stop it all, so I married him and continued to suffer.
The person who minimized me was my mother. She died a few years later, never knowing. Probably better for her. Some days I still have to struggle to forgive her, but as loving and protective as she was, she came of age in the 1950s and was a creature of her time.
Since then, I've been assaulted again in less dramatic fashion, but now I'm around people who believe me and believe in my right to be safe in my own body. That makes a huge difference.
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Pebble. And yummy gluten-free treats, when you like. And silly dancing.
I never, ever wish this on anyone. Not someone I love, someone I like, someone I don't know, even someone I hate. But your courage in talking about this, the not-being-believed, and what it does to you? The rest of us share in your strength and grow it and spread it around.
I remember trying to tell and being minimized after my then-fiance raped me, and had been coercing me continuously. I didn't know how to get out, and I didn't know how to stop it all, so I married him and continued to suffer.
The person who minimized me was my mother. She died a few years later, never knowing. Probably better for her. Some days I still have to struggle to forgive her, but as loving and protective as she was, she came of age in the 1950s and was a creature of her time.
Since then, I've been assaulted again in less dramatic fashion, but now I'm around people who believe me and believe in my right to be safe in my own body. That makes a huge difference.