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[shadesong]

Sometimes I feel - not just on LJ, but in Real Life (tm) - like I'm not allowed to be anything but perky and vibrant and charming.

I don't feel like any of those things today.

I'll be cocooning.

Comments

[ilexx.livejournal.com]

sometimes? HA! i USUALLY feel like that! embrace your darkness, i say (and so does my therapist btw!)!! it's part of who you are. give yourself permission.

[darkmattr.livejournal.com]

Perky!!

Heh.

[songwind.livejournal.com]

Grouchy and other non-perky things are fine with me. :)

[iroshi.livejournal.com]

:::::::::Zen Hugs:::::::::

Above all, dear, be Yourself. If you don't feel perky, don't put on a front for anyone. This is your journal. If you want to moan, bitch, and WHINE for a change, please feel free. Besides, it's an easy way to get lots of hugs and support and statements of how much you're loved. :)

:: blows kisses ::

[sambear.livejournal.com]

It's always interesting to me to note what effects people's lives have had on their daily self-image. Really, this whole idea that you must be perky and vibrant and charming....doesn't that come from some kind of patriarchal imperative, some kind of madonna/whore dichotomy that says that it's only OK for boys to be aggressive and in a bad mood and it's not OK for a girl to be that way? I guess girls in certain parts of the world (the Southern US, especially, in my experience) are taught to *always* be perky and charming and really, how can anyone be perky & charming all the time?

Plus, it takes all the fun out of things when you *want* to feel perky & charming. You're second-guessing, wondering, "am I doing this because I *have* to do it, or because I *want* to do it?"

technomom says she's burnt out all her nice-girl circuits long ago. I'm not sure how accurate this is, she's capable of being politely civil to many people, although it taxes her severely. It is true that she no longer *automatically* switches into Nice Girl mode, but when her Southern accent comes out and she says, "Yes ma'am" and "No ma'am" and "Yes sir" and "No sir" I know immediately that she's switching over to that mode on manual.

But, really, 'song, those who are your true friends will love you whether your perky & cute & charming or not. Heck, will probably love you *more* because you aren't fake-y to them, you're a real living, breathing human woman who has real moods, and real feelings, and isn't always Little Miss Perfect.

The real question is, how is the self-injury streak going?

[olliesmama.livejournal.com]

I hear that...I'm usually a very happy, chipper person, who can always see the bright side of things. It really irritates me that whenever I get quiet or pensive, people start panicking and asking me what's wrong. "Nothing" is never good enough. I'm tired of always being the Pollyanna of the world.
you and me, we are allowed bad days too!
*hugs*
(But let's try to schedule them so that they aren't on the same days, or the universe will fall out of kilter LOL)

[m0usegrrl.livejournal.com]

that's baloney. you're allowed to be mopey and depressed and angry and stuff. we'd be worried if you really were perky alla time. it Just Ain't Natural. =)

follow ilexx's excellent advice -- Embrace Your Dark Side!!

::hugs:: you're loved no matter what mood you're in. don't ever doubt that.