sleepy fed-up post.

[shadesong]

Yes, I'm partnered. Yes, yendi is my soulmate. Yes, I have many friends, most of whom are male. I hug them and stuff. I have conversations with them. They're often more open with me than they are with other people precisely *because* I'm soulmated. No act, no mask, is needed with me.

Why is this a problem for some people?

Bed now.



Comments

[m0usegrrl.livejournal.com]

it shouldn't be a problem, should it? ::hugs::

[melintur.livejournal.com]

As long as it's not a problem with you or with your soulmate, it's not a problem.

-=C

[shadesong.livejournal.com]

And i's not - but apparently, some people like to spread rumors to the effect that it *is* a problem for yendi. And then I have to talk worried people down. Worried people who are suspicious of any man who so much as shakes my hand, anyway.


I'm just tired of defending my friendships.


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[tikimama.livejournal.com]

If these "worried people" don't answer to the name of Adam, then I don't see where it is that person's business.

I think expressing concern is laudable, but you should be able to say, "We have talked about it, yendi and I have discussed boundaries, etc. Thanks for you concern, but it's fine." Words can get stronger as necessary.

[m0usegrrl.livejournal.com]

and the rumour spreaders -- the ones making false assumptions and telling tales to anyone who'll sit still long enough to listen -- need to Get A Life. it's none of their damn business either.

[melintur.livejournal.com]

YEAH!

[shadesong.livejournal.com]

It's not the worried person that's the problem - with what the rumor spreader is spewing, plus his natural suspicion, he freaked out. What pisses me off is the rumor spreading.


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[terracinque.livejournal.com]

Because "some people," clearly, are idiots.

Don't trouble your mind with these dark matters.

[darkmattr.livejournal.com]

Got something on your mind?

[shadesong.livejournal.com]

Both of you, settle the fuck down. I am serious. I'm not doing this again tonight.


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[shadesong.livejournal.com]

It's not the dark matters that are pissing me off, dude, it's the rumor spreaders.


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[darkmattr.livejournal.com]

I am so glad you said that, my only goal in life is not to piss you off you know.

For the record, on the information I knew, and then was told by someone, I reacted. My friendship with shadesong, is not something I am ever going to defend on here, nor how I interact with her. Yendi knows it, and as far as I can tell, has no problem with it, nor on a normal day to day basis does she.

I did, what I always do when I hear things, I go to the source and ask, again, what I did. We talked, I said things to song that 90% of the people who talk to her would be terrifed to. She let me know my worry was unjustified, and I have a strong feeling why that is that she didn't even tell me. (Which song, when you read this call me, new theory about someone.)

But, wow, boy, you are the witty one

[yendi]

We talked, I said things to song that 90% of the people who talk to her would be terrifed to

98%, actually.

[darkmattr.livejournal.com]

Why is someone so freaking tiny so damn intimidating? Shes like a umm... errr.. something tiny and intimidating.

[yendi]

I believe the term you're looking for is "like a shadesong".

[crimmycat.livejournal.com]

tornadoes are tiny compared to a thundercloud, but they're scarier, too.

[shadesong.livejournal.com]

"You make me feel so high, really high, like a really high thing..." -XTC



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[shadesong.livejournal.com]

Love you, Howie, don't be a bitch, and you call me, 'k? I don't know where you are now.


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[wolfieboy.livejournal.com]

Who ever it is, needs to get a grip. If they have problems, they could ask yendi who would then set them right...
'Course the more amusing thing might be to say something like, "Oh, I see that you still have issues" and fade off to the rumour spreader...

[shadesong.livejournal.com]

That's what yendi said... "Why didn't s/he just ask me?"

[bellacrow.livejournal.com]

a voice in the wilderness


because it's late and I feel like sharing

Just because you're soulmates doesnt mean you'll last, there's no gurantee even for soulmates. I should know, I lost mine, oh, we're still connected, cant seem to fully let go after what, 8 years now? But we're not together.

[two-star.livejournal.com]

I'm broken. I read the first paragraph and then I read the next line, and I was totally confused. What is the antecedent of "this"? There are 7 sentences preceding, and it could refer to any of them. In fact, it could refer to any subset of them. There are 2⁷ different subsets of a 7 element set. OK, the null set wouldn't make sense, I mean, I can see how someone might have a problem with the null set, but, um, no. So, 2⁷ - 1. 127. And then everybody responds to your post, and they know exactly what you'ree talking about. But how? I don't get it.

[metaphorge.livejournal.com]

Why is this a problem for some people?

Because some people think that when you have a "relationship" with one person you cease to "relate" to anyone else.

How faulty this viewpoint is could be the topic of a six-page rant, but I digress. :)

[shadesong.livejournal.com]

You're borrowing my brain again, aren't you? :)


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