*sigh*

[shadesong]

Okay. Clarification.

The Rumor Spreader decided to tell the Worried Person that yendi was hideously jealous of the way I hung out with one of my male friends (despite the fact that a. the Rumor Spreader has only once been in the room with all three of us at the same time and that was for less than five minutes, and b. the Rumor Spreader is not someone yendi would ever confide in anyway). The Worried Person has an advanced big-brother complex and distrusted all men in my life anyway, so he flew off the handle. So I spent an hour last night trying to calm Worried Person down after Rumor Spreader had whipped him into a frenzy. After which, being completely exhausted, I attempted to go to sleep... unfortunately, I was getting angrier with every passing minute, so I had to get up and make that post.

Listen, people.

To Rumor Spreader: Yes. I have male friends. Get over it. If you think yendi might have a problem with that, ask him, don't just start declaring from the rooftops that he's insanely jealous. I have no idea where you're getting this, and neither does he.

To Worried Person: You pretty much always hate at least one male friend out of any group. I accept that this is your nature, but for gods' sakes, just fucking drop it. I have neither the time nor the energy to expend on defending and justifying my friendships.

To the friend: Don't be a bitch to the people I'm defending you to. All it does is create more agita for me, it does nothing to them.

To all of you: If you think there's a problem, take your concerns to me or yendi. Don't start yapping on AIM about how your wild suppositions are the Truth.

I'm just sick of having groups of friends where people attack each other and hate each other for no goddamn reason, okay? Especially when these particular groups don't even physically interact. Just ignore each other, if you hate each other so much. If you're my friends, respect that you're placing me in the middle. Where I now have to do even more office move shit on way too little sleep.

Respect what I said in my previous post. People talk to me without their masks or pretenses, probably at least partially because they know they're not getting laid, so they're allowed to not be their prettiest self, they're allowed to be real. So if I say that I trust someone, accept that I have reasons without demanding to know what they are.

Okay?

I'm in my old office for now, but sometime this morning, I'm going to the new office, where I don't have a computer yet; I'll be without access for much of the day. So don't freak out when I don't answer posts/e-mails immediately.

Be excellent to each other, dude.

Comments

[danorsong.livejournal.com]

Good luck on that one. When Morgan met Juli he did a Him or Her thing... and finally he got over it. But just.. Good luck.

[iroshi.livejournal.com]

The only thing I have for you, is the only thing you need in this situation:

::::::::::::::::ZEN HUGS::::::::::::::::

I trust you are fully competent to handle the rest of the shit. :) Continue being excellent, my dear, in your own inimitable way.

[m0usegrrl.livejournal.com]

party on, dude.

oh, and to the Rumor Spreader, i repeat -- Get A Life. if you wanna stir up shit, do it somewhere else. Do Not Fuck With My Friends.

[sogi.livejournal.com]

do you get paid well for all this baby sitting?

[shadesong.livejournal.com]

Heh. I wish.

Re:

[sogi.livejournal.com]

you should call their parents and tell them you want at least five bucks an hour per child

[dslartoo.livejournal.com]

I was going to write a followup comment to the entry you made last night but this seemed like a better place for it. If Adam hasn't got a problem with the male friends you have (and I presume he doesn't, since you two are still happily together) then everybody else needs to have themselves a nice big glass of SHUT THE FUCK UP. Your lives together are your business and nobody else's.

No defenses are needed, no justifications are required, and none should be. Your life, your decisions, your friends.

cheers,
Phil

[shadesong.livejournal.com]

Thank you! :)

[darkmattr.livejournal.com]

True, I do, and usually more then one. And geez, nice language. There are ladies present.

Now, where did I put that big glass of shut the fuck up.

this can't be _so_ bad

[jet-li-wannabe.livejournal.com]

Sweetie,
I mean, how jealous could yendi be? Your hottest guy friend is in NJ now anyway.... :)

But seriously, puh-leeeze let me smash someone? I wanna break some of these bad people who are making my friends upset.

Either way, I miss you....don't let anyone wear a groove in any good visitin' spots in the new office.

-Mike(y)

Re: this can't be _so_ bad

[shadesong.livejournal.com]

Hush, no one needs smashing, Hulk. :)

[amai-unmei.livejournal.com]

Oh the drama!

Why can't we all just get along?

[gev.livejournal.com]

'cuz *that* would be *dreadfully* boring.

[wolfieboy.livejournal.com]

I could really get into -that- kind of boring...

[metaphorge.livejournal.com]

I've made That Kind of Boring one of my life goals, because once you attain it Life Gets More Interesting....

[shadesong.livejournal.com]

That's what I wanna know!

[mouseferatu.livejournal.com]

Wow. Such drama. Almost makes me yearn for high school--where this sort of thing should have been left. And I thought I had insecurities... :-/

Sorry you have to deal with this sort of crap. I know how nasty it is to get stuck between warring friends on even minor issues, and this one isn't so minor. Hopefully everyone reads this and chills a bit.

[shadesong.livejournal.com]

People are chilling.... I think it's going to be okay. *hugs* Thanks!