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[shadesong]

And, because I am too damn honest and stupid for my own good, I just sent an e-mail that I probably should not have sent, telling a friend exactly what I think about his situation. Which is, I'm sure, going to backlash on me rather a lot and possibly end the friendship. But I can't keep my damn mouth shut.

Comments

Friendship

[melintur.livejournal.com]

I would hope a friendship could weather such storms, and honesty (even if in retrospect you were wrong about the situation, or regret or change opinion) is always good because it would hopefuly foster discussion. No one ever got anywhere with dishonest feedback, I think. This is, of course, as long as the friend understands that aspect of discussion and honesty (and changing opinions/positions with exposure to dialogue and evidence.)

Ok I'm rambling, but I hope I made _some_ sense.

Re: Friendship

[shadesong.livejournal.com]

You did.... but there are too many levels and layers to this friendship, and the feelings involved are too strong. This is probably the end. If I'm smart, I'll make sure it's the end, because it hurts so deeply, and I have too much going to to devote myself to not letting go. But I'm not always smart. And I'm not always strong. And I'm too goddamn empathic for my own good, and I feel things too deeply.

[m0usegrrl.livejournal.com]

it's not who i think it is, is it? because if it is, i think it'll be more likely that he'll snarl and snap and say Mean Things, then sign up for a long trip up that river in Egypt rather than deal with either you or his situation...

[shadesong.livejournal.com]

He's not saying Mean Things... it's worse than that. And it's too late to change. And I'm trying not to cry. I fucking hate this.

no, dammit!!

[m0usegrrl.livejournal.com]

there is SO nothing wrong with you!!!! the only thing you did was What You Had To Do For You And Your Sanity. it was his choice to make -- he chose. you had nothing to do with his decision, okay?

i know the hurt's still raw and fresh, but it will get better.

and he's certainly not worth agonising over for longer than it takes for the wound to heal. he's proven that beyond a shadow of a doubt.

he is a Non-Entity now.