Clarification on the BDSM filter

[shadesong]

No everyone who replies is going to get in - I need to be reasonably certain that I'm not going to freak you out. This filter is not about getting tied up, it's not about going to goth clubs and getting spanked, it's about deeper darker stuff, D/s, M/s, the psychological shit. I'll continue to post the same stuff outside the filter that I've been posting. If you're not in the filter, you'll still get general discussion on the topic, and you'll still get the naked drawings of me and stuff. :) It's just that I need a "safe" place to discuss this with people who know their shit. If I don't add you, it doesn't mean I don't like you - I adore all of my friends. It just means that I'm not sure you want to know as much as you think you do.

Comments

[amberfox.livejournal.com]

*nod* Filtering is your right and privilege; you share with us just because you're nice. You're good enough at articulating your thoughts that your posts are frequently of use to me; I'm not having one of my more coherent periods right now, so I'm not of much use to you. But I appreciate whatever you choose to share. I don't say so as often as I might, because I don't like posting just to say "Wow, that makes sense, thank you so much!", but I'd be sorry if you stopped writing.

[iroshi.livejournal.com]

Though I'll vouch for Amber, 'song. She's Trustworthy. And I don't say that often or of many people.

[shadesong.livejournal.com]

I know - you've vouched for her before, and I trust you. :)

[eternalredneck.livejournal.com]

if you need to talk to some othere people that have been in the life for sometime now, I know of som people tht may be willing to talk to you as well. or if thre is anythign that you wish for me to know, or not to know, feel free to come and talk to me. I will try to help you as best I can.

ERTV

[shadesong.livejournal.com]

*hugs* Thanks, sweetheart. :)

[tarpo.livejournal.com]

Understandable.. and hey.. its your LJ.. thats totally your right

[snowelf.livejournal.com]

That's your right, and I think it's a sensible thing to do. And you're so right. Much as I adore my friends, there's things I'd rather not tell all of them either.

[dorei.livejournal.com]

Understandable. My "friends" list is rather small. I figure they've read my interests and so they already know what I'm into. Your group, however, is much much larger, so you probably got people who are definitely not in the lifestyle and have no desire to know about it.

But, speaking of the lifestyle, as I'm an open book, feel free to ask anything you'd like. I'm a slave and proud of it. D/s, B&D, S&M ... yum. ;)

[shadesong.livejournal.com]

Yum indeed... :)

[ilexx.livejournal.com]

*shrug* up to you toots. (yes, i really did just call you toots) i'm admittedly not nearly as experienced as i'd like to be, but i'm extremely interested in the topic, particularly the psychological aspects of it. as long as it doesn't involve sex with knives. the idea of that does freak me out a little.

[teapot-farm.livejournal.com]

Totally your call, babe. But I'm happy to give you details of what I like, cos I don't think I normally give many clues... informed choices are good...
Um, I did leave this comment in the previous thread, but I realised you may not be going back there now.

[piratejenny.livejournal.com]

Hey, totally understood. You've gotta be comfortable with the people you share with as well. Safety is uber-important.

[chelona.livejournal.com]

I totally understand. If you want to add me, I would be happy to read what you have to say and comment when appropriate. I am not as much into that stuff as you are, but I have dealt with it for many years in many people.

[entropic-om.livejournal.com]

I'm happy to read anything you want to share! ;)
I think it's kind of you to make a filter. That way if someone complains later, you can just tell them to shove off.
*giggles*
;p
seriously, it's a great idea to keep drama down!

[iroshi.livejournal.com]

I'm wearing my new earrings today. I feel very subversive. (No, this is not off topic. ;)

[amberfox.livejournal.com]

Why, you naughty little Betan frill!

[azurelunatic]

*snicker*

Such a lot of meaning, to be encoded in a few twists of metal...

[mfree.livejournal.com]

If you think it best, I wouldn't mind being let in. Very little "freaks me out"... my objective filters (like little else) are still functioning 100% :)

[onceupon.livejournal.com]

Well, I know we haven't talked on that topic, and this is the first I've heard of the filter (I'm reading backwards today apparently), but I really would like to be part of the filter. I have some fairly deep sub tendancies and it's important, I think, for people to share those kinds of things.

[catalyxt.livejournal.com]

Wise decision. :) As always, up to you, 'song. I'm always available over e-mail if something comes up, in any case...and as I've said before, it's exceedingly unlikely that you would shock me.

[silme.livejournal.com]

It's up to you. If you want me there, cool. If not, that's okay too. I can handle such discussions.

mm.. bdsm.

[gev.livejournal.com]

not something I've tried, but have enjoyed stories involving various aspects.
Consider me interested in being on the readable side of this filter.

[galateadia.livejournal.com]

Just here to voice my opinion that it is your right to filter whomever you choose.
I compltely understand.

But also to let you know, if you are judging who to let in or not let in, my interests list is toned down for reason of family reading my journal (no need to freak out my grandma ya know?).
I have another journal that I keep that has a more extensive dark side interest list.
giantpeach.
But like I said, its up to you. :)

being the new guy...

[amokk]

i, as apparently everyone else as well does, fully understand your desire to only let in people you're sure about. i was interested in various lifestyles when i was younger, but i'm no expert on it. but i'm always interested in psychology of anything (oh duh, i'm a psychology major, go figure that stuff interests me ;) ).

so.

yah.

up to you. ;)

[beandelphiki.livejournal.com]

You know, I was just going to suggest power_exchange, but I checked, and you have it. Mmphf.

I am now officially unhelpful, by my own admission. :) I hate being unhelpful. :( Oh, well.

It's your journal. Whatever, it's cool with me.

[shadesong.livejournal.com]

You're not unhelpful! It was a great idea, after all; it's just that it had already been implemented...

[astelspirals.livejournal.com]

:)

[dicotomygrrl.livejournal.com]

Hey 'song, Am I on this filter? Can I be added? Please?

[shadesong.livejournal.com]

As you wish!