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Every time I pause to write here, I ponder, and I think "my thoughts on that are not complete yet".
Which, from the outside, must look like absence when it's more like heightened presence.
So. This post is an ask-me-anything, in case there's anything you were wondering about.
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Which, from the outside, must look like absence when it's more like heightened presence.
So. This post is an ask-me-anything, in case there's anything you were wondering about.
Anonymous commenting is on.
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We met on Tamson House, the Charles de Lint listserv, in late '95/early '96, and we were just... instant best friends. Because we were both smart and snarky in ways that clicked with each other. We started e-mailing offlist almost right away. But the thing was that both of us were like "Oh man, they are too funny and clever and awesome, there's no way they'd be into me." So we settled into best-friendship with a strong undercurrent of undisclosed crush.
And then I met this other guy in person and dated him and married him and on our honeymoon we went to DisneyWorld and Atlanta, because we both had close friends in Atlanta - he had a college buddy, and I had Adam and another Tamson House person.
And Adam walked into the hotel room and the clouds parted and a chorus of angels sang and I thought "I have made a terrible mistake."
But I didn't tell him! Because what would that have accomplished? But from then on Adam visited me in Florida a few times a year, and I consoled him (as a friend) through a big breakup, and we tried to keep from falling in love and totally failed at that.
And then my ex-husband did stuff that made him my ex-husband, and we were like fuck this, let's admit it: we are in love, we are best friends, this is what life should be.
And I moved to Atlanta.
And Adam was my second-best decision of all time, right after having Elayna. (#3: Moving to Boston.)
Basically, he was my Person from day one. It just took a while to peel everything away from that essential fact.